- Find Your Happily Ever After by Tiffany Johnson
- Format: Paperback
Tiffany Johnson is a natural-born psychic whose psychic experiences began when she was contacted by spirits of the dead late at night around the age of three years.
Her parents divorced when she was just five years of age and the experience taught the psychic a great deal about the issues that arise when relationships fall apart.
She has now been working as a professional psychic for over twenty years and often works with clients who raise issues that relate to their love-lives and personal relationships.
In her book Find Your Happily Ever After: Love and Relationship Advice From a Professional Psychic Johnson begins her expose on human relationships by looking at the contentious subject of Soul Mates: what they are but, more importantly, what they are not.
She then focuses specifically upon romance and examines the ground rules that need to be established before making that all important commitment to someone else.
Here, she establishes thirteen key elements to your life that you should employ to clarify your stance when determining the suitability of someone as a long term partner.
This is followed by seven specific personal characteristics that she suggests we look for in others whilst on a date with the key piece of advice on offer at this point being to remain natural, be yourself and not to seek to change either yourself or your potential partner at the earliest opportunity.
Hopefully, after five consecutively successful dates with your new acquaintance, you are ready for part two of the book which deals with any problems that arise regarding the level of commitment within your relationship by your partner.
Johnson then looks at the level of romance on display in your relationship before considering the next logical step in the progression of a relationship, namely moving in together with its attendant moral, ethical and practical considerations.
Shifting the focus of your life from one of purely personal interests and concerns into joint ones conjures up other important issues, such as personal privacy. The author looks at how this compares to the related but deeper principle of secrecy and of the need to find time for yourself—though, as the author then points out, there are some forms of relationship, such as those carried out over a long distance, where this is not such an issue.
In line with the main approach to her book, Tiffany Johnson continues to offer her advice on what to do if you believe your partner is cheating on you, how to react if your partner becomes abusive before moving into part three of the book, which deals with the consequences surrounding the breakdown and disintegration of a relationship.
At this point, she looks at the issue of blame, the need to let go and move on, healing and regaining your sense of emotional balance following a break up.
In a later chapter, the author once again returns to a psychic perspective of relationships by looking at karma and past lives and how relationships are judged from the other side of the veil.
The book draws to a conclusion by examining the nature of common sense advice and guidance from parents and even from ourselves to ourselves.
I have no real knowledge about the author’s expertise as a psychic medium but her book about love and relationships clearly reveals a lost opportunity to talk about her chosen field of expertise.
Instead, it wallows in a quagmire of her own personal relationship experiences and subjects the reader to an endless succession of inconsequential waffle of the sort you might expect to read in the agony aunt column of a cheap teenage magazine.
In fact, the whole tone of the book comes over as if issuing forth from the mouth of moralizing and insidiously interfering maternal aunt.
To put the record straight, the book’s main narrative is sandwiched between chapters that do touch upon psychic perceptions of love and relationships (and these are genuinely interesting and insightful). But, sadly, they give the impression of having been tacked on in order to justify the suggestion that the author’s psychic perception of life has relevance to the main narrative.
What can I say that is positive about this book? Only that some inexperienced youngsters seeking a guiding hand in the ways of love may find in its pages some help and comfort whilst venturing out into the unknown and challenging world of personal relationships.